BILET 2. AŞAMA ÖRNEK SINAV READING SECTION. Siblings Relationships: A Brief Analysis - PDF

READING SECTION Siblings Relationships: A Brief Analysis 1 During childhood, sisters and brothers are a major part of each other s lives for better or for worse. As adults they may drift apart as they

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READING SECTION Siblings Relationships: A Brief Analysis 1 During childhood, sisters and brothers are a major part of each other s lives for better or for worse. As adults they may drift apart as they become involved in their careers, marriages and families. But much later in life, after retirement, when the children leave home and parents and sometimes spouses pass away, brothers and sisters often turn to each other for a special closeness and link to the past. In the stressful, fast-paced world we live in, the sibling relationship becomes for many the only intimate connection that seems to last, says psychologist Michael Kahn of the University of Hartford. Friends and neighbors may move away, former coworkers are forgotten, marriages break up, but no matter what, our sisters and brothers remain our sisters and brothers. 2 The late-life bond between siblings may be especially important to the Baby Boom generation, people who were born in the United States from 1946 to 1964 when the birth rate increased dramatically. These people, now in adulthood, average about two or three siblings each. Divorce rates are high among the members of this generation because they have different values from their parents; they do not attach the same level of importance to family as their parents. For the same reason, most of those couples who stayed married decided to have only one or no children. Divorce and having one or no children will force members of this generation to look to their brothers and sisters for support in old age. 3 Another important factor in sibling relationships is critical events. Critical events can bring siblings together or deepen an existing gap. Parental sickness or death is a prime example. A study done by the University of Cincinnati showed that siblings engaged in rivalry and conflict were even more torn apart by the death or sickness of a parent. On the other hand, those siblings who had been close since childhood became closer. 4 As brothers and sisters advance into old age, closeness increases and rivalry diminishes. Old age is seen as a time to heal wounds. Older people tend to focus more on what they need now than on bad events of the past. As a result, people become more involved with and interested in their siblings as they age. Most elderly people have supportive and friendly dealings and get along very well with their brothers or sisters. Furthermore, with family and career obligations reduced, they have more time for each other. Another reason for increased contact is anxiety regarding a sister s or brother s declining health. Many older people like to check in on their siblings to see how they are doing. Siblings also assume special importance as other sources of contact and support weaken. Each of us moves through life with a group of people who supply comfort and nurturance. As we age, the size of this group gradually declines because of death, sickness or moving. Brothers and sisters who may not have been important members of the group earlier in life can become so in old age. And they do more than fill in gaps. The loneliness older people feel cannot be satisfied by just anyone. They want a specific type of relationship, one that only someone who had shared their past could provide. 5 This far-reaching link to the past is a powerful bond between siblings in later life. There is a review process we all go through in old age to resolve whether or not we are pleased with our lives. A sibling 1 can help retrieve a memory more accurately. We can remember some with our spouse or with friends but the only person who goes all the way back is our sister or brother. Only they can help us remember the past events the way they happened. Discussing the past helps us feel the warmth of early family life once again. Furthermore, going back in time with a sister or brother can improve our morale. 6 Some of the factors that affect how much contact siblings will have, such as how near they live, are obvious; others are more unexpected. For example, relationships are closer if there is a sister involved. Elderly people most often feel closest to a sister and are more likely to keep in touch through her. Sisters, by tradition, often assume a caretaking and kin-keeping role, especially after the death of their mother. In many situations, two brothers do not talk to each other that much but keep track of each other through their sisters. Researchers have found that the bond between sisters is strongest, followed by the one between sisters and brothers and, last, between brothers. 7 Sisters and brothers who live near each other will, as a matter of course, see more of each other. However, proximity is not crucial to a strong relationship later in life. Because of multiple chronic illnesses, people in their 80s and 90s cannot get together that easily. Even so, these siblings seem to evoke positive feelings based on the images or feelings inside. Just the idea that the sibling is alive and that there is someone they can call is comforting, so while contact among siblings may decrease, positive feelings increase. 8 Although older people may find comfort in the thought that their siblings are there if they need them, they rarely call each other for help or offer each other instrumental support, such as borrowing money, or help with shopping or cleaning. There are several reasons why siblings do not turn to each other more for instrumental help. First, since they are usually about the same age, they may be equally needy or weak. Another reason is that many people consider their siblings safety nets who will save them after everything else has failed. A son or daughter will almost always be turned to first. It s more acceptable in the society to look up or down the family ladder for help than sideways. Finally, siblings may not turn to each other for help because of hidden rivalry. They may believe that if they need to call on a brother or sister, they are admitting that the other person is a success while they are a failure. Therefore, some people would rather continue on their own than ask their sister or brother for help. Despite the quarrelling and competition many people associate with the mere mention of their sisters and brothers, many will find unexpected strengths in this relationship in later life. As people age, their siblings become the most important people in their lives. As a result, one sibling may be worth all the friends, colleagues, neighbors a person has. 2 READING QUESTIONS Part A: Fill in the blanks in the following sentences with information from the text. 1. The baby boom generation becomes dependent on their siblings later in life because. 2. Siblings who have a good relationship support each other even more in situations like. Part B: Complete the following summary of paragraph 4. Siblings get closer when they get older due to several reasons. Firstly, as they age, they do not see each other as rivals because they attach less importance to (3). In addition, siblings can spare time for their relationship thanks to fewer (4). The third reason for this closeness is siblings worries about (5). Finally, when they lose the people around them, people turn to their siblings instead of other people because (6). Part C: Answer the following questions according to the information in the text. 7. In addition to helping us remember past events correctly, how may talking about the past with a sibling help us? 8. What prevents siblings at very old ages from seeing each other? 9. Which of the following is NOT mentioned in paragraph 8 as a reason why older siblings rarely ask each other for favors? a. They prefer to seek help from other family members first. b. Siblings of an old person may not be in good conditions, either. 3 c. They get help from other members of the society. d. They do not want their sibling to think that they have failed. 10. According to paragraphs 6&7, who would have a stronger relationship after losing their parents? a. Siblings who live nearby. b. Siblings whose mother dies. c. Siblings with a chronic illness. d. Siblings involving a sister. 4 LISTENING SECTION You are going to hear a talk on Dating and Romance. You will hear this talk only ONCE. During the talk, take notes under the relevant headings on your note-taking outline. Do not attempt to write everything down. Just note down the significant points. At the end of the talk, you will have 15 minutes to answer questions about the talk. Use your notes to answer the questions. You now have 30 seconds to study the note-taking outline. I. HISTORY OF DATING DATING AND ROMANCE 1950s PLEASE TURN THE PAGE 5 1960s II. Problems with modern dating 6 LISTENING QUESTIONS You have listened to a lecture on Dating and Romance. Use your notes to answer the questions according to the lecture. Information that is not from the lecture will not be accepted. This sheet will be collected in 15 minutes. - Write THREE changes that made dating more informal and free between 1920 and What changed in the 1950s in terms of dating? - What were the TWO effects of feminism in women s lives? What was the effect of feminism on society s understanding of dating? - What are TWO problems of modern dating? WRITING SECTION Write an essay of about 400 words on the writing question given below. Use the necessary supporting techniques to develop your opinions in your essay. You have 60 minutes + 15 minutes extra time. Writing Question: Discuss how social media sites like Facebook and Twitter have changed our lives. You may use the following prompts or your own ideas to write your essay. - Social life - Connections with others - Personal privacy You MAY use the following facts in addition to other supporting techniques to develop your ideas. There were 1 billion Facebook and 645 million Twitter users by the end of (Datablog of the, February 2014) The average number of friends among adult Facebook users is 338. (2014 survey by Pew Research Center) 8 SPEAKING SECTION You will be asked two or three questions on the theme transportation & traffic. You should try to talk about each question for about 1-2 minutes. So, please give detailed answers. The questions you will be asked are in bold. If the instructor feels that you need to elaborate your answers, s/he will ask you some of the questions in italics. THEME: TRANSPORTATION & TRAFFIC Drivers Problems in İstanbul - Why are there traffic jams in İstanbul? How do traffic jams affect people? (their psychology / stress level / punctuality) What do you do to avoid traffic jams? - How do parking lots cause problems? (around the school / in your neighborhood) Are parking lots cheap or expensive? - What are some of the characteristics of drivers in İstanbul? Do they obey traffic rules? Do they respect other drivers? How about the pedestrians? What are some of the characteristics of taxi driver? 9 READING SECTION ANSWER KEY 1. divorce rates are high among the members of this generation OR most of those couples (who stayed married) decided to have only one or no children OR (of) divorce and having one or no children 2. critical events OR parental sickness or death OR the death or sickness of a parent 3. (the bad events of) the past OR rivalry 4. (Family and career) obligations 5. A sister s or brother s / each other s declining health 6. Siblings do more than fill in gaps. OR The loneliness older people feel cannot be satisfied by just anyone. OR They want a specific type of relationship, one that only someone who had shared their past could provide. 7. Discussing the past helps us feel the warmth of early family life once again. OR Going back in time with a sister or brother can improve our morale. OR They shared their past with them. 8. Multiple chronic illnesses 9. C 10. D 10 LISTENING SECTION ANSWER KEY 1. place of dating/ couples now went out together/ they started to spend time and money outside/ woman s house was not the meeting place for the couple s anymore 2. control of power/ control was in the hands of the man/ power changed hands/power shifted from the woman s hand to the man s 3. nature of relationships/ Being beautiful or handsome became important/ physical appearance of the date became more important/ physical attractiveness of the date became important 4. dating activities began at a much lower age/ dating was a common practice even at high schools/ spread of dating to high schools/ 5. women started to value themselves more/ they started to value themselves more/ Women started to think of themselves not only as a wife but also as a human being 6. more women started to go to university/ They read, wrote, and thought a great deal about their roles in relationships/ their level of education increased 7. people became more liberal toward dating/ dating became a way of life/ dating did not have to end in marriage anymore/ marriage was not an obligation at the end of dating/ date just for the sake of dating 8. risks of online dating/ difficult to understand who is who on the internet / dating has become risky OR dangerous with the use of the internet 9. disappearance of dating standards/ rules about dating have disappeared/ lack of rules/ dating today lacks rules/ dating seems like a game without any rules/ young people don t know how to date 11
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